You may have heard of the Rule of Saint Benedict, but if you’re ready for a refresher, Father Dave welcomes Manolito Jaldon Jr. to help us apply it to our daily lives — even if you aren’t in a monastery! Manolito Jaldon Jr. is an oblate of Mount Angel Abbey and the author of, “The Upside-Down Kingdom: Living in Holiness and Sanity Through the Wisdom of Saint Benedict.”
Manolito explains how he first was drawn to Benedictine life in 2006. “I was discerning my vocation by trying out the seminary at Mount Angel Abbey, which is the heart of their apostolate. [However], it would be much later on in life when I would find ‘The Rule’ on my shelf when I wanted more,” he says. “I was moving from being an extrovert to more introverted, and I just wanted to slow down a bit…That’s the interesting thing about the Rule of Saint Benedict or monastic values; It’s not something that you put as a poster at the parish. You have to seek out silence and a Benedictine way.”
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They discuss how the Rule of Saint Benedict is a model for those living in a monastic community. “It’s a vision of life for these men or women who gather together behind closed doors to preserve love,” he says, noting that he does not live at the monastery now as an oblate, but is spiritually connected to the order. “At the heart of Benedictine life is the Liturgy of the Hours, the praying of the Psalms, and Lectio Divina. So we need these rules so we can [live into] the life of prayer well.”
Manolito shares how we can apply a monastic approach to our own communities. “I hear a lot [about attending an event] if you’re available to build community. If we flip that upside down, Benedict offers something very different. He says it’s not about just showing up for people when it’s convenient, but showing up consistently — finding that rhythm where I’m showing up for you out of love to serve you,” he says.
“Benedict talks a lot about how the elder must listen to the younger because God speaks to the young. He talks about caring for the sick,” Manolito continues. “In a spiritual community, we take the values of monastic life, transpose it to our everyday life. We can see the world upside down and see that there’s great value in showing up constantly for the other.”
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He offers another lesson that Saint Benedict can teach us. “The first word of ‘the Rule’ is listen, and not in the sense of processing information…but rather, listen with the ears of the heart. I love that because it is inviting us to sit down with the other, not to get anything out of them, but to simply listen to their concern,” Manolito says.
“When we listen with the ears of the heart, we see what people are really trying to say. Benedict says we should esteem silence and only speak when there’s something that’s worthy to speak,” he continues. “So for anybody who’s at a meeting all day, every day — you don’t always have to say something. It’s something Benedict has really taught me.”
Facts Only
* Manolito Jaldon Jr. is an oblate of Mount Angel Abbey.
* He authored “The Upside-Down Kingdom: Living in Holiness and Sanity Through the Wisdom of Saint Benedict.”
* Manolito was drawn to Benedictine life by trying the seminary at Mount Angel Abbey in 2006.
* Monastic life involves the Liturgy of the Hours, praying the Psalms, and Lectio Divina as central to prayer.
* The Rule of Saint Benedict is a vision for those living in a monastic community who gather behind closed doors to preserve love.
* One principle of Benedictine life mentioned is that the elder must listen to the younger because God speaks to the young.
* The concept involves caring for the sick within a spiritual community.
* The first word of ‘the Rule’ is listen, meaning listening with the ears of the heart rather than processing information.
* Benedict advocates for esteeming silence and only speaking when something is worthy.
Executive Summary
Manolito Jaldon Jr., an oblate of Mount Angel Abbey and author of “The Upside-Down Kingdom: Living in Holiness and Sanity Through the Wisdom of Saint Benedict,” discusses applying the Rule of Saint Benedict to daily life outside a monastery. He found an interest in Benedictine life while discerning his vocation at Mount Angel Abbey in 2006, seeking a slower pace as he moved from extroversion to introversion. The core message is that monastic values are not meant for public display but require seeking silence and a specific way of living.
The discussion centers on translating monastic values into community building. Benedictine life emphasizes the Liturgy of the Hours, praying the Psalms, and Lectio Divina as essential components of prayer. Manolito suggests flipping this model to community engagement: instead of showing up when convenient, one should show up consistently out of love, finding a rhythm where service is inherent.
Furthermore, the text highlights Benedict's emphasis on listening. He stresses listening with the ears of the heart rather than just processing information, suggesting that silence and speaking only when necessary fosters deeper understanding of others' concerns. This approach involves allowing space for others to speak without immediate response, reflecting a valuing of presence over constant verbal contribution.
Full Take
The narrative pivots on recontextualizing monastic principles—which are traditionally inward-focused within a closed community—as principles for external, relational living. The central tension lies in the shift from performance-based engagement (attending events) to consistent, internalized presence ("showing up consistently out of love"). This suggests an underlying pattern where external social obligations are often met with extrinsic motivation; Benedict’s framework proposes shifting this locus of value from outward appearance to internal disposition.
The call to "listen with the ears of the heart" addresses a modern deficit in communication culture. It posits that true connection requires a deliberate suspension of the need to immediately respond or extract information, which directly challenges the transactional nature often embedded in group interactions. The implication is that community resilience is not built by managing schedules but by cultivating a state of receptive stillness.
The pattern observed here relates to the tension between extroverted societal demands and introverted spiritual needs. When applied to community dynamics, this suggests that what is often perceived as passive—silence, deep listening—is actually the most active form of relational engagement. The challenge for readers is to recognize how their daily rhythms prioritize immediate input over sustained, heart-centered receptivity, thereby reshaping the definition of 'showing up' from mere physical presence to intentional, empathetic connection.